Friday, August 28, 2015

August Adventures

August was a month of adventures for the Bertram family.  With Joe's parents leaving for the month to Japan, we were on our own with our little man.  This gave us just the right excuse to do a stay-cation for awhile and check out the DC sites.

Our first stop was our friend Breton & Chris' pool which we made quite the routine over the month of August.  At first Benton was not a fan of the pool but with a little encouragement and lot of toys in the baby pool he came around and eventually loved practicing walking back and forth in the water.  Not only was this a fun outdoor activity but it was great exercise and practice to help him get strong enough to take his first steps.
Family portrait at the pool!
Loving the pool
Next stop was the Baltimore Aquarium which was so much fun.  Benton loved riding in his new backpack and checking out all the fish and he even got to touch non-stinging jellyfish.  We also took in a dolphin show - and man was Benton shocked when the dolphins jumped into the air! Finally we checked out the rain forest exhibit and saw lots of birds and bats.
First time at the Aquarium!
Waiting for the Dolphin Show to Start
Start of the Jellyfish World
Rain Forest Fun!
Third stop was the Delaware beaches for a quick day trip.  It was Benton's first experience at the beach and boy was he ever overwhelmed.  Not only did he HATE the sand and start crying and whining any time his feet went off the blanket but when we walked him down to the water's edge he started freaking out.  Needless to say he spent most of the afternoon under the tent on a blanket, but with a little coaxing we were able to get him more acclimated by day's end.  I see a lot of cajoling to get him to enjoy the beach in the future, but since I'm from Hawaii its kind of a prerequisite for my kid. :)  These pictures are a few from when he wasn't freaking out at the beach:
Not so happy about the ocean
Getting a little bit happier at the beach

After our solo adventures my dad came into town to help us with Benton and spend some quality time with his grandson.  Before heading back to work we checked out quite a few fun spots in DC.  We had picnics at Lincoln Park, tried out the Georgetown splash park, checked out the National Museum of Art and went to Jazz in the Garden with friends.  During all of these new adventures Benton was such a good sport and I think it was great for him to really start experiencing the outside world now that he is oxygen free.
Three generations at Lincoln Park
Love this little man
Playing with Grandpappy after Destroying our Picnic
Fun at the Splash Park
Playing at the Splash Park

Family fun at the National Museum of Art
Boys in the Thinker Pose
Jazz in the Garden with Friends
Benton loves Auntie Breton and Uncle Chris
Trying out walking at the Jazz in the Garden
 For our final crazy outing we went to the National Building Museum's Beach exhibit.  For those of you who don't know the Beach exhibit it is basically a giant ball pit for kids and adults that is mirrored to look like the beach with a shallow and deep end and even beach chairs for your viewing pleasure.  This exhibit was such a trip!  Benton was slightly overwhelmed by the number of people and the balls everywhere, but when Joe pushed me into the ball pit and I disappeared Benton got truly upset....seeming to say "Why would you do that to Mommy".  The Beach exhibit was no joke, and my dad even had difficulty getting out of the ball pit at one point so Joe had to go in to retrieve him :)

Family portrait at the Beach exhibit

Getting Buried
Digging our way out of the Ball Pit
Daddy Daughter Time
Love in a Ball Pit
The rest of the month was filled with playing at the park, trips to our local winery, and lots of love.
Playtime at the Park
Loving the Swings
Fun with Grandpappy
Winery Visit with Catie and Lucas
Benton loves playing with glasses of water!
Too cool for school

Sunday, August 2, 2015

Summer in the City! Oxygen Free

Cutest boy cannula-free
Since Benton's strep throat cleared up we have been filling our weekends with fun in the city.  We have had many playdates with friends, walks through the neighborhood, housewarming parties, visits to wineries, and even a day trip to Monticello.  All of these excursions have been a breath of normalcy....and it's all been even easier thanks to the fact that Benton has come off oxygen during the day!  You heard me right...Benton is OFF oxygen during the day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First moments going on a walk without oxygen and eating cannula free
Little cutie unplugged from his oxygen
Over the last few months Benton's oxygen levels have slowly and steadily decreased down to 1/32 of a liter which is the last stop on his regulator.  Starting around the end of June, Benton began to come off oxygen for a couple of hours at a time working his way slowly to 4 hours then 6 hours then 8 hours then finally all day.  Being able to finally free Benton from his oxygen leash was such an unbelievable feeling.  We had gotten so used to being tethered to one floor and within a certain diameter of his oxygen tank I think we were in shock at the ease of life when Benton came off oxygen.  No longer did we have to chase him around the couch because his oxygen cord would get stuck on the edge.  No longer did we have to say "Sorry Benton you can't go all the way up the stairs because your oxygen leash won't let you".  In that moment, Benton became free!
Walking around Stanton Park
Slowly but surely life has become easier since Benton came off oxygen.  We no longer have to drag a big heavy oxygen tank around town -- that thing weighed almost 10 lbs.  We have more freedom to do everyday things like walk our son around the house to do errands and laundry.  We can take Benton to the park and not have to follow 3 feet behind him while he crawls in the grass.  Every little normal thing feels special.

Furthermore, we finally got to take off Benton's cannula and see his beautiful face tape and cannula free for the first time ever.  It was shocking see his face cannula free -- Benton looked so different.  So grown up and such a big, big boy.  Every moment I look at my son's face and see him without his cannula seems like it will be etched in my brain forever.  These are the moments I treasure.  These are the miracles we prayed so fervently for.
Happy Fourth of July!
Now to tell you about our fun adventures in the city.  We recently discovered a park nearby that actually has swings!  Benton is obsessed with the swings and he took his very first ride on Fourth of July weekend.  Ever since we had a playdate in June with our friends from the NICU we have started taking Benton to the playground.  At first it was out of our comfort zone since he is still only crawling, but without the oxygen it all seems more doable.  He really likes the teeter-totter and the bouncy horse but is afraid of the slide.
Testing out the swings and the bouncy horse
First time on the swings!
In addition, we have had playdates with several of our out-of-town friends and their kids.  It is always so special to see your child play with your friend's child.  It just seems like you are witnessing the circle of life....watching your kids play just like you did years ago with their mommas or pappas.
Hanging with out-of-town friends
Matching outfits -Twinsies!
 As I mentioned in a previous post, our trip to Michigan really emphasized our family's need for a new car.  We decided the time had come.  After looking at several options we settled on a Toyota Highlander and it has changed our life.  Not only can we easily fit all of Benton's stuff in the car, but cars have come a long way since my little 2004 jetta.  Once we bought our new car we had to take it for a spin and we checked out the wineries in Virginia and headed out for a day trip to Monticello with the family.  Getting out of town has felt incredibly freeing and the month of July seems to be all about freedom.  Freedom to travel, freedom to roam, and freedom from the oxygen cannula!
Enjoying Monticello's grounds
Posing in front of Monticello 
Three generations at Monticello
This summer has been amazing in terms of Benton's physical and medical accomplishments.  Not only has he made great strides on his oxygen requirements and now only requires oxygen at night, but Benton has slowly but surely increased his confidence in cruising and is now all over the house.  These past two months have been filled with new medical updates on Benton.  At the early part of June, Benton had his long-awaited swallow study and he PASSED!!!!!!  He is now formally cleared for all liquids and solids which means we can work on getting him to drink from a sippy cup.  Benton also had his first audiology appointment to check out his hearing.  It turns out that Benton had a lot of pressure in his ears which was actually lessening his hearing.  As the audiologists were explaining this pressure they said it could be from an illness and at the time we thought Benton was perfectly healthy, but low and behold he actually was getting strep throat at the time.  So hopefully the pressure in his ears was just a passing issue and when we go to his next hearing check-up all is well.
Family in front of our new car!
This summer we also had appointments with GI and Nephrology.  Our first appointment was with GI, we talked to her about how difficult it had become to feed Benton.  Every single meal was a chore and he would require lots of singing, games and many toys in order to distract him to eat.  To make matters worse, we had continued to feed him throughout his strep throat and his oral aversion was back with vengeance.  Our GI doctor recommended backing off on the oral feeds from 5 feeds a day to 2 feeds a day and take our cues from Benton.  No more distractions, no more toys.  After a solid week of little to no eating and some weight loss, Benton turned a corner and has started willingly eating by mouth again.  We still have a long way to go until we are tube-free but we are on the right path.

Our nephrology appointment was for Benton to get his annual renal ultrasound.  The ultrasound showed good growth in the kidneys and everything appears to be in good working order.  The echogenicity that is present on his kidneys did not go away and they believe it is scar tissue.  So as long as Benton's kidneys continue to grow well over the next few years we should be doing well.
Exploring in his new tricycle!

Loving his new tricycle!!!!!
Benton also was measured for orthotics to help him start walking.  These shoe-like inserts are to help stabilize his ankles which were pronating inward and having him cruise extremely bow-legged.  Just the first day we put the orthotics on we saw a drastic difference.  They truly help stabilize him and give him better balance.  Benton is still not taking steps on his own but he is now cruising the walls, pulling up to open doors, climbing onto the couch and going up the stairs like a speed demon.  We hope that these orthotics are the kickstart he needs to finally be successful in walking.
Fun at a Virginia Winery - our first day trip!
Rocking out his orthotics at the winery
My final update is that Benton was re-evaluated by Early Intervention to see if he is still eligible for services.  Silly me, I thought Benton might not qualify, but not only does he qualify but he is overly qualified for special services.  Benton was diagnosed as significantly delayed in his speech and adaptive skills and slightly delayed in his gross and fine motor skills.  The only category in which he was deemed "normal" was in social skills.  I'm not going to lie, hearing this diagnosis was hard.  I know my son Benton better than anyone, yet when all you are presented with is your son everything is relative.  You don't realize he is behind the curve on things.  As long as you see forward progress that is all that matters.  With Benton we see tons of forward progress, yet when an evaluator comes in your home and tells you your kid is delayed it shocks you even though you know in your heart he's behind....but you don't like hearing someone else say it so bluntly.
Hanging with Auntie and Uncle at the pool
Fun at the pool with Auntie Breton and Uncle Chris
At the end of the day, Benton is unbelievably amazing.  He is thriving when doctors said he wouldn't make it.  We know that Benton is thriving and making incredible strides each and every day and that is what we are going to focus on.  Benton is off oxygen during the day and that is a massive accomplishment for our little nugget.  So what that he is taking longer to walk then doctors would like.  We love our sonn unconditionally and believe he will grow up to be a strong, healthy, successful boy and someday become a strong, successful young man and that's what matters.  We thank God and Jesus every day for the miracles they have bestowed upon our son and thank our lucky stars that we get to be parents to such an amazing kid.
Trying to open the door and reading with papa!
So much cuteness
Ride'em Paya